Just Because I Choose To Love

By Mikal Frazier

Because I choose to walk with Lordship faith in Jesus Christ, I choose to be filled with his Spirit. Since I choose to be filled with His Spirit, I choose love.

(Galatians 5:22-26 NIV) But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.

I choose to love my husband as Jesus loved me. I do not have to depend on a feeling or the roses around my feet or his behavior. It is an active, decisive love I choose to give because God first chose to love me, when I was so unlovable (and still am on occasion).

Because I choose love, I have joy. As I trust in the Lord for my hope, he fills me with his joy. Nothing can take this hope from me. Where I have my treasure, moths and rust cannot corrupt. My husband is free from the burden of my discontent.

Because I choose love, I have peace. I keep no record of wrongs. My husband has no need for a corner on the roof.

Because I choose love, I practice patience. When my husband demonstrates behavior that might be termed inconsiderate, I will not be easily angered. I will give my husband solace instead of anger. I will give grace as God has given me grace.

Because I choose love, I practice kindness. I will consider the needs of my husband before my own. Because I am acting out of my fullness in Jesus, this is no great cost to me.

Because I choose love, I practice goodness. I will choose to bring him good, not harm. I will not be a liability to him. He will have no need of spoil. He will lack nothing of value that I can provide.

Because I choose love, I will be faithful. I will avoid the very appearance of any lack of trustworthiness. His heart will trust in me.

Because I choose love, I will be gentle. I refuse to be harsh and demanding. I will not be the cause of fear in our relationship. I will give him a safe, accepting audience when he wants to talk with me.

Because I choose love, I will practice self-control. Because I am filled with His Spirit, I can hold on to myself. I will make choices from my inner spirit, which is in submission to His Spirit. I will not be tossed about by the desires of the world. My husband will be known in the gates.

If you have questions about marriage and family relationships, you can "ASK THE COUNSELOR." Address your questions to Mikal Frazier. Her address is mikalfraz@nullaol.com


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