29-The Disciple As A Mentor Part 2

Day 29: The Disciple as a Mentor — Part 2 — Developing a Relationship
An Intimate Walk with Jesus – A 30 Day Quiet Time Series
Text: 1 Thessalonians 2:6-12

Assignment: Ask your mentor if they think you are good at developing close relationships.

Lesson To Learn: The mentor must learn to build a deep relationship with those he mentors if he is to have an impact in their lives.

The mandate Jesus has given every disciple is to go to all nations and make disciples. This is an incredible challenge which, to our knowledge, was done only once before. The disciples in the first century were able to evangelize their world (see Colossians 1:6, 23). They accomplished this without the use of telephones, cars, planes, trains, fax machines, etc. However, what they did have were incredible relationships. The power of the Church is not our ministry techniques, but the deep relationships that exist between disciples. Usually, when people become disciples they do not know how to build deep relationships. It is very important that all disciples learn how to build relationships that will last forever. When persecution is directed toward us, it is those close relationships that will help us overcome the anger of the world. In this lesson, we will examine the biblical directive on how to have close mentorship relationships.

1. I Thessalonians 1:2-3 – One of the most important things you must do to build a close relationship with anyone is to pray for them. Paul prayed continually for the disciples. When you pray for someone, you spend time thinking about them and their needs. Through prayer, you will develop a more compassionate heart and you learn to empathize with them. Do you pray continually for those whom you mentor?

2. I Thessalonians 2:6-7 – One way to draw those whom you mentor into your life is to learn to be gentle with them. To start a relationship with an iron fist is to build a wall between you and those whom you disciple. Paul uses the analogy of a mother caring for her little children. When a newborn comes home, that mother is very gentle and caring for that child. Only later, as the child grows, do you begin to train and discipline them.

3. I Thessalonians 2:8-9 – In order to have a close relationship with those whom you mentor, you must love them. You must want what is best for their lives. You must enjoy them and appreciate their friendship and company. Paul loved the Church in Thessalonica, and they knew it. Do those whom you mentor know that you love them and that you want what is best for them?

4. I Thessalonians 2:8-9 – Paul shared his life with the disciples. He was open with them about his feelings and struggles. They knew about his past, his strengths, his weaknesses and his fears. Paul spent time with them. Spending time with people is the only way to get to know them. Do you share your life with those whom you mentor? Do you have a regular weekly time that you get with each person you mentor? Is this time the same from week to week or is it a floating time? Often, if we do not plan it into our schedule, it will not happen.

5. I Thessalonians 2:10-12 – Paul was always encouraging, comforting and urging the disciples. There has to be a balance in every relationship. It cannot be just training, or rebuking, or just hanging out together, or just encouraging, or just comforting. Every relationship needs to have a combination of all these ingredients. There must be a proper balance. That is why you should be constantly re-evaluating your mentoring relationships to see if you are maintaining that balance.

If we are to evangelize all nations, we must build close personal relationships that will last a lifetime. Jesus poured Himself into His disciples. His friendship with them accomplished the goal He gave them. Be quick to incorporate these principles in your relationships and then God will bless you with the same results.

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